She is totally blind...can't stand...or transfer, without at least 2 people...and a gate belt.... {they believed me, finally...at the Hospital....oh my...it was...a long day...} I don't write about my activities....other than antiquing...much.... but...I do live another...several lives... one...is being my Mother's Guardian....I work hard at it...but...feel...I fail, at being a good daughter....some times...but...this is...the Best I can do...I'm sure there are others...who do...much better than I....Bless their Hearts...
I will say...we Both...had a very Long day... Mom's surgery went without a hitch...a Great Surgeon...is a Plus!!! We started at the Nursing Home...at 11... the Special 'K' Bus...picked us up...at 11:15... {they are Great....I can't transfer Mom, into a car, from her wheelchair...anymore...so a Handicap Bus...is all we can do....} It's soooo hard on Mom, tho...I keep chatting...and reassuring her.... {think about taking a Loud...Roller Coaster Ride...Blind folded....and being 91 years old.......oh my...traumatic...for her...and me....}Stress, can bring on Grand Mall Seizers...{she has a brain tumor....that triggers Grand Mall Seizers....she has beaten my arm, bloody... into the pavement...while having one...as I cradled her head...from hitting the concrete...they are horrible...and...they have happened while grocery shopping...or just walking, into her house...they are a Horrible thing...} It took many hours...from start, to finish...but...she is in no pain... and....I brought her, her favorite supper...Fried Chicken...and Mashed Potatoes..with Beef Gravy...
I feed Mom....she can't eat by herself, anymore... without her sight...and her left side...for some reason...just doesn't want to work, anymore...{it's the Meningioma...{brain tumor} I'm pretty sure...she says it's from a stroke... tho...there is no evidence of a stroke...}Think...that is the hardest part...Mom has dementia... I just...realized...how long...I would not...admit that.... I simply could not...let anyone think...Mom...didn't have her faculties....{I still...have a very hard time with that....something...about respect...you simply do not question, your elders...at any cost... } {that...will be in the book..someday... 'The Care Giver..."} most...don't know me...that way...that..is another life... oh my... when I say... "It's not the Years...it's the Miles"...trust me...
I visited with the staff, at the Nursing Home, and Mom's Doctor...before I left, tonight.... Think...everything..is on track... I am concerned about infection... Mom's 91 year old skin...wouldn't let the Surgeon close up, like he wanted to... so... it has to be watched closely... biopsy results...in...in 36 to 48 hours....
Visited with Peg...this eve...she was eating a steak...Bless her Heart.... I was looking up on line, what she should be eating....as we visited...and SHE YELLED AT ME!!! Told me to quit worrying...they had all sorts of directions...on the food to eat...during chemo... I said...well...it appears..it was what I had said...anyway... High Fat... High Protein!!! The Biggest Bang...for the smallest amount! { I Loved hearing her yell at me....Spunk!}
Then...visited with a friend, going through 'teenage daughter' issues...oh my...been there...{was one...{teenage daughter}..that is...and a Hand Full...I will Admit!} {what am I saying...I still am...a hand full...} oh my...All I can say...is ...Life is short...
Mom was singing...in the Hospital... "Wooden Heart"... ":Later than you Think"..."One Day at a Time"... and several other Oldies... the nurses got a Chuckle...I thought about asking her to quiet down... but...then thought...I don't think so.... she wasn't that loud......she is 91...and had just been through...so much...if it bothered anyone...they could ask... I wasn't about to....{plus...she sings in perfect key....amazing...}
Yep...it was a Long Day...{I even ran into my Dad's Oldest Daughter....at the Surgery Center, at the Hospital... {I should have played the lottery...I never see her... who would have thought!} Strange...she said, she's 75....I about fell over...she looks like she's in her 50's... good genes...I guess... {she doesn't have those 'miles' tho...oh dear...}
Oh Well...I have had enough...for today...I drove Old Sally...and we Listened to Chesney..."Alive and Well"... and, for today...that's good enough...for me...
| This is Mom, Liz, and Miss Scarlett...at Mom's Sister, Helen's Funeral...in July...This was a Hard Day...for Mom.... |
Love..to You...
Barb C.
{Yep...if this seems a little unlike me...I have been enjoying Spiked Egg Nog...and Loving it! Happy Holidays!}{Mom got Percocet....!}{It's been a Long..Day...} : )
{Mom kept Thanking me...for being there... I said..."No...Thank You...For being...my Mama"....} {for the record...my Mama...made all of my clothes...she was .... is,...amazing....}